This month my husband and I will have been happily married for 5 months! I am so thankful for Him and how He displays God’s grace to me on a daily basis (some days it’s hourly! )
Though I haven’t been married long I have learned a big lesson…
Marriage isn’t a fixer upper!
When I was single I struggled with insecurity. I compared myself to others and wanted people to like me. I thought that maybe marriage would be the perfect solution to my problem. I thought that by having a husband who would love me unconditionally, and would be by my side every day to tell me I’m beautiful and loved, would fix the whole insecurity issue.
Actually marriage made my issue even worse! It revealed what was truly lying beneath my patch worked security phisod. I began to compare myself to others and Satan began to feed me lies like I’ve never been fed before. Lies like I wasn’t good enough, that my husband deserved someone better, prettier, kinder, godlier… the list continues.
So this was me…an absolute mess my first month into marriage. Not what I dreamed of and certainly not what my man dreamed of either as he experienced his wife’s first melt down.
It was here where I had to deal with the lies Satan wanted me to believe. I had to begin to daily recognize the lies that were coming at me, and to defend them with the truth of God’s Word.
No person, not even my husband can fix my sinful weaknesses. Only Christ can take this messed up vessel and by His grace transform it into something useable.
I found these three steps to be helpful, they are by no means conclusive or a magic formula, but they are a place to start in surrendering the battle to God, so that through His power you may fight against the Devil.
1) I must pray. Asking God to make me aware of the lies of Satan. (Ephesians 6:18)
2) I must replace the lies with God’s Word. (2 Timothy 3:16-17; Ephesians 6:10-18)
3) I must rest in my identity in Christ. (Ephesians 2:1-10)
What’s your fixer upper, and who are you looking to?